Played an MTT session tonight and fought hard. Decided to keep the buy ins lower whenever possible to focus on helping others beat the smaller buy in MTTS and max out ROI; especially for new players trying to generate a side income stream in N.J. Did a recording tonight for my private group at least.
Also kept a journal of some of the smaller stuff here.
Today is freedom Monday because I decided to end a toxic relationship I was involved in earlier and I'm starting to feel better because of it already.
Break-ups are always pretty much devastating, but I'm going to do my best to use this as fuel to improve and grow daily. This will be a turning point when I get over this in stride no matter what.
She added more negativity then positively to my life every single day; I could end it with that explanation pure and simple. But just to make sure I even kept a positively/negativity chart on an excel sheet. Everyday I would grade how much positively to negativity she and the relationship was adding to my life daily. I started this at the beginning of the month to make sure I wasn't losing my mind. Each day the worst possible score was -10; the highest possible score was +10. At the end of the month she was at about -100. That is hard to do ...
Man if I had a $100 for every relationship an excel positively/negativity spreadsheet has ended...
I now need to ask myself every day WHAT AM I DOING to improve EVERY DAY that I wouldn't have been able to do if I was still with the parasitic girl.
It's really not personal; If anything I should be thanking her. It was a reminder that I have to look into the mirror; this can't happen again ever. I can't allow such a toxic influence to chip at my progress as a person.
Looking back the situation actually feels like a bad dream for most of the time (except the really good sex; which is an addiction itself and didn't even close to out weigh the negativity). My thinking patterns made little to no sense when I talked about her and the relationship; even to friends who described me as in 'a trance.' It was a trance; I was the host of a parasite that was destroying me.
It wasn't even personal; she loved me as best as she knew how, but you have to love yourself before you know how to love anyone. An addict doesn't love themselves; they have a disease fueled by unwavering victim mentality. They will continue to destroy themselves and everyone around until they CHOOSE TO BE AT WAR TO CHANGE. As a significant other you can be dragged into the abyss or cut ties and hope they one day find the happiness they deserve and are looking for; but you no longer have any say in the matter. To stay is to suffer needlessly; you have to recognize it and save your self. It will perhaps be one of the hardest choices you will have to make, but it is 100% correct and needs to be done.
At the end of the day I am a high quality guy. To think I fell so deep into scarcity and selflessly poured so much into one girl is maddening. Putting so much into one person who proved many times she is incapable of being in a mutual beneficial relationship with anyone was pathetic on my part pure and simple. I can do better; I have to do better. When it was said and done She allowed me to hold up the mirror so I can rally back to my core purposes and improve myself.
We have so much to accomplish in life and so little time.